What’s holding you back?

We all encounter blocks, limiting beliefs and fears from time to time that hold us back and prevent us from moving forward in the direction of our dreams, goals and passions.  Often they sneak up just as we are ready to take the next step forward.  At the very moment that we are ready to plunge ahead, we are suddenly stopped—sometimes frozen by an unseen wall or gripped by fear of failing or succeeding or not getting it right.  And they may appear subtly—a sudden urge to shift what we are doing to something that seems more important or urgent, a whisper to fulfill a craving, a need to accomplish an easier, more mundane task.  Sound familiar?

“Cancel, cancel” – Why it might not work

These slippery gremlins operate beneath the surface, pulling our strings and manipulating our actions.  They are rarely hindered by our proclamations of “cancel, cancel” or “stop that now”!  They are part of our programming, woven into our life story.  As characters in our story, they too want to be heard, seen and acknowledged.   All of our limitations, fears, and blocks were embodied at some point in our lives to protect us, to keep us safe.  It may have come from a traumatic event in our life.  It may have come from a parent reprimanding us or admonishing us for doing something they viewed as dangerous.  Or it may have come from a rejection that confronted our deep longing inside to be loved. 

What works

In order to manage these gremlins, we must first become aware of them—include them on our story and bring them to life.  See them for what they really are rather than what we often project them to be—giant obstacles that create impassable barriers or scary, looming monsters that have the ability to destroy us.  As you minimize the size of the projection, you are able to see them and acknowledge them for having served you at some point in your life.  Just as a two-year old wreaks havoc when not getting the attention she or he craves, our limiting beliefs and fears do the same internally.   Bringing awareness and acceptance to what holds us back is the first step in taking back control of our lives.  Overcoming what holds us back involves seeing that we are bigger than our limitations and fears, embodying at a cellular level new beliefs that rewrite the code for the ones that hold us back, accepting that we are whole, resourceful and perfect just as we are. 

Ignite Your Dreams with Motion

Finding ways to move these concepts into the body brings our awareness and acceptance to a whole new dimension.  Using a powerful and evocative movement process called JourneyDance™, I guide people through a visual journey of their limitations and fears, allowing each of them to be expressed through movement and then re-creating them in ways that will serve.  As we move through this process, we are able to bring our energetic bodies into better alignment with our dreams on a deeper, cellular level.   We are no longer controlled by our limitations and able to shift our energy more easily to support us in moving forward. 

Your Turn

The next time you encounter one of your gremlins, take a few minutes to name it, write about it or draw it.  Allow the gremlin to speak.  Then put on some soul-inspiring music and allow your body to express what you are feeling and what your gremlin is saying.  Our feelings and emotions are simply energy and allowing that energy to be expressed and flow through us creates space for us to refocus our energy on what is most important to us and what brings us joy.  Give it a try!   

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Suzy Spivey is in the business of creating dreams.  Her coaching, speaking, workshops and TV show focus on inspiring people to believe in their dreams and helping them create those dreams one step at a time.  If you are in transition, feel stuck, or looking for more meaning in life, contact Suzy for help in making the shift to move you forward. 

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Using the Power of Gratitude to Manifest Your Dreams

Gratitude is a critical step in the process of dream manifestation. Expressing gratitude each day—for what we have in our lives at this very moment—can change our vibrational energy and what we attract into our lives. Using gratitude wisely alters every choice we make. Particularly in times of illness, anger, sadness, or loneliness, gratitude gives us a way to make an immediate shift in our mood and ultimately, our energetic vibrational level. Gratitude brings us back to our center, restoring our personal power.

Practices of expressing gratitude, such as keeping a daily gratitude journal, have been shown to create more alertness, hope, enthusiasm, attentiveness and energy in the people who developed regular routines to express gratitude. In a 2003 study done by Drs. Emmons and McCullough, they found that study participants who kept a weekly gratitude journal felt better about their lives as a whole, reported fewer physical complaints, and exercised more.

Begin using the power of gratitude to transform your life and manifest your dreams by establishing a regular practice of expressing gratitude. The following are steps that you can take to begin your own practice of incorporating gratitude into your daily life. Research in behavior change suggests that it takes 25-30 days to establish a new behavior. So select one or two of these steps and give them a shot for 30 days.

  • Keep a Gratitude Journal. If you’re not in the practice of keeping a journal, this is a wonderful way to start. Begin and/or end each day by writing down at least 5 things that you are grateful for that day. It can be as simple as “I’m so grateful that I have legs to stand on” or if it’s been a particularly challenging day, you may write “I’m so grateful that this day is over!” If you already keep a journal, complete each entry with your list of gratitudes for the day.
  • Express gratitude for the most basic aspects of your life as you go through the day. For example, as you shower or bathe in the morning, feel grateful for the water and soap you have for bathing. Express gratitude for your sight and your legs that carry you through the day. Saying grace before each meal is a wonderful way to express your gratitude.
  • Be generous with your expressions of gratitude to others. Meister Eckhart, a 13th century philosopher said, “The most important prayer in the world is just two words: THANK YOU.” Take the time to say thank you throughout the day, especially to the slow grocery store clerk or the bored bank teller or the rude sales person. Simple expressions of thanks will reward you many times over and can shift the energy of the person receiving your gratitude.
  • Acknowledge and express gratitude for the beauty of nature that surrounds you. Become conscious of nature as you go about your day, taking a moment to look at the sky, flowers, trees, etc. Feel grateful for each element that you notice.
  • Develop a switch in your mind that shifts negative thoughts to ones of gratitude. The moment you catch yourself spiraling down with a negative or fearful thought, train your mind to flip the switch to thoughts of gratitude and appreciation. You control your thoughts and you can change them at will.

At times you may find it difficult to feel grateful, especially if you have suffered the lose of a loved one. The good news is, you do not have to feel gratitude in order to express it. Because the very act of expression will result in a vibrational shift within you that opens your heart to new possibilities. Give it a try!

Copyright ©2007 by Suzy Spivey. All rights reserved.

Suzy Spivey is the author of “The 30-day Gratitude Journal”. She is also a Certified Dream Coach™, Inspirational Speaker, and TV Host & Producer. Click here to purchase copies of the “The 30-day Gratitude Journal.”

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The Power of Gratitude

Think of a time in your life when you felt truly grateful for someone or something. Can you remember how you felt in that moment? Did you feel love, connectedness, possibly a sense of wholeness? If so, you witnessed the power of gratitude in that moment. Now imagine if you could replicate how you felt in that moment and experience those sensations every day. How might your life change if you felt love, connectedness, and wholeness on an ongoing basis?

Gratitude is defined as the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful. It’s considered to be an emotion or feeling we express. But isn’t gratitude more than that? Since the beginning of time, the expression of gratitude to a higher power or deity has been the hallmark of almost every religion. The central theme in most world religions today is giving thanks to God. In fact, gratitude can be developed into a daily practice and become a way of life. Gratitude will open the gateway to your heart’s desire and put you on the fast track to manifesting your dreams.

“Give thanks for a little and you will find a lot.”
—The Hausa of Nigeria

In the past five years, gratitude has captured the attention of the scientific community and we now have scientific evidence of the power of gratitude. In a 2003 study conducted by Drs. Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough, they found that grateful people experience a greater sense of feeling connected to others, higher levels of life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and lower levels of depression and stress. Study participants who kept a weekly gratitude journal felt better about their lives as a whole, reported fewer physical complaints, and exercised more.

I first discovered the power of gratitude in 1998 when my world seemingly crumbled before my eyes. I left a successful, 15-year career in publishing to find my true calling. I knew in my heart that there was more to work than earning a good salary and getting the next promotion. There was something deep inside calling to me, but the voice was faint and I found it difficult to access the volume control. So rather than embarking on my intended discovery process, I rapidly dissolved into a major identity crisis—who was I without a job title with which to identify myself? This crisis led to a crushing sense of despair and fear. My “soulmate” who had encouraged this bold career shift eventually decided that he couldn’t handle my depression and moved out of my home and life, leaving me alone with nothing but my thoughts. As I struggled to pull myself out of the black hole, I found exercise to be the only reliable boost. That was taken away with a knee injury that required surgery and 4 – 6 weeks on crutches. So I found myself alone and home bound with no outlet for my one reliable endorphin boost.

My book shelves were filled with inspirational books that I had collected over the years, so I started reviewing the kernels that I had highlighted and underscored searching for some meaning in all of this. I discovered that they all delivered a similar message, which Buddha captured most succinctly with these words, “we are what we think.” A-HA! I finally understood that the more I focused on what I didn’t have or didn’t want in my life, the more I got of just that. As I allowed fear and doubt to paralyze me, I shut off my connection to my higher power making it impossible to receive what I wanted.

I was reading Sarah Breathnach’s Simple Abundance and decided to take her advice and start a Gratitude Journal. So each night I would write down at least 5 things that I was grateful for that day—no matter what. There were days when I struggled to find 5 things, so I would write “I’m so grateful that this day is over” or simply “I’m so grateful to be alive!” It doesn’t really matter if you feel grateful in the moment. Expressing it regardless of how you feel is the important step. In fact, the most important time to express gratitude is when you feel it least.

Within a week of starting this daily practice, things began to shift. Friends showed up to take me out since I couldn’t drive; on one of these outings, a new man showed up and brought a smile back to my heart; a new career opportunity appeared—literally—with a phone call intended for someone else. It didn’t take much to convince me that gratitude works! It truly can transform your life if you will acknowledge the abundance you have right now in your life which will open your heart to receive. It really is as simple as that.

Copyright ©2008, by Suzy Spivey.

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Using Feng Shui in Your Home Office

Have you ever walked into a home or office and instantly felt comfortable and relaxed? Can you recall an environment that made you feel uncomfortable or anxious for no apparent reason? An explanation for these positive or negative feelings in different environments may be found in the principles of feng shui (pronounced fung schway).

Feng shui is the ancient art of placement and design used to balance and enhance the energy flow in living environments. The Chinese have relied on feng shui for over 3,000 years to assure an abundance of wealth and love in their lives. Feng shui experts believe that by creating harmony and balance in your physical environment you will attract good luck and prosperity in all areas of your life

The practice of feng shui is based on the flow of ch’i (pronounced chee)—the life force or vital energy that links people with their surroundings. Ch’i is the medium by which energy moves into an environment. According to feng shui principles, ch’i is a tangible force that gives way to physical manifestations when it flows freely or hinders physical manifestations when it is blocked. A practitioner uses feng shui to read the energy movement in a home or office and restructure the movement to enhance health, harmony, and abundance.

So what does this have to do with your home office? By following some basic principles of feng shui, you may improve your productivity and career prospects as well as enhance your success, creativity, and wealth. Specifically, you can use feng shui to determine where to set up your home office, the best placement of your desk, the use of color in your office, and incorporate “cures” into your office to change the flow of blocked energy.

Home Office Location

If you have the luxury of choosing the location of your home office, these tips can guide you in maximizing the flow of energy:

  • Since energy enters your home through the front door, you want to set up your home office in the front of the house to take advantage of the flow of energy. If you’re in the back, it’s more difficult to receive any energy. This will also be beneficial if you will be receiving clients and conducting business with others in your home office.
  • Once energy enters through the front door it flows up, so it is preferable to be on the entry level or above as opposed to a level below the main floor of the house. It’s difficult for energy to move down into the basement.
  • A rectangular-shaped room is best for a home office. If the room you choose for your office is L-shaped, use one of the areas for your desk and the other for a sitting area.

Suggested “Cures” for Less Ideal Locations

In the art of feng shui, a cure is a change you make in your environment to bring balance and harmony into the space. When the flow of ch’i or energy is blocked or stagnant, a feng shui cure can get the energy moving again to create change.

The following “cures” can be used to alter blocked or stagnant energy:

  • If your home office is in your bedroom, hide the office area with a screen at night so that you don’t mix energies when you move from work to sleep.
  • If your home office does not have a window, brighten up the room with yellow paint, bright lights, and pictures of the outdoors.
  • If your home office is located in the basement, paint the walls and ceilings a bright white. Create as much light as possible with bright lighting. Install a fan to get the energy moving.

The Dos and Don’ts of Desk Placement

According to feng shui experts, the placement of your desk can impact how you feel while working in your office. If possible, follow these dos and don’ts in arranging your desk:

  • Do place your desk diagonally across from the doorway-this will allow you a clear line of vision.
  • Do place your desk so that you’re sitting with your back to a wall or corner-this will create a sense of security. If you absolutely have to sit with your back to the door, hang a mirror in front of you or angled above your desk so that you can see anyone walking into the room.
  • Do position your desk facing into the room rather than facing a wall. If you decide to place your desk flat up against a wall, it is best if a window is to your left if you’re right-handed, and to your right if you’re left-handed.
  • Don’t place your desk so that your back is to the door-this will cause you to be jumpy, easily startled, and distracted because you never know who’s behind you or you’ll feel like you’re being stabbed in the back.
  • Don’t place your desk so that your back is against a full wall of windows-this position may make you feel as though nothing solid is backing you up
  • Don’t place your desk in the center of the room-you will lose power and authority.
  • Don’t place your desk directly in line with the door, either facing it or with it to your side–you will receive the full force of energy coming into the room and you may feel confused or agitated.
  • Don’t place your desk flat up against a window so that you face directly out. The only situation in which it is good to place your desk against a window, provided no one can look in at you, is if you face due north-considered a prosperous direction-when looking directly out.
  • Don’t position your desk where you feel cramped, confined, have a limited field of vision, or where there is a passageway behind you.

Using Color in Your Office

Color research shows that people are stimulated in specific ways by different colors. Feng shui uses color as a cure to promote the appropriate energy for a space. That’s why it’s important to pick a color based on the tasks you will be performing. For example:

  • Yellow stimulates clarity of thought, creativity, and mental activity–making it an excellent color for a home office. Yellow also promotes discipline, which anyone working in a home office needs.
  • Red is an aggressive color, so it’s a good choice for anyone making deals or selling, and for those who entertain clients in their office.
  • A blue-green color can be soothing, yet creative–a good color choice for writers.
  • Oranges and other warm desert colors stimulate socialization and collaboration–good for a small office using a team approach to management.
  • Your ceiling should be painted a light color–a dark color will make you feel as if there’s a dark cloud hanging over your head while you work.

Using Feng Shui Cures

Placement of objects in a particular area or quadrant of your office or desk can enhance the energy to various aspects of your life. To understand where the various quadrants of your desk are, consider where you sit as the front of the desk. For example, as you sit facing your desk, the wealth quadrant would be the upper left corner. Here’s a few cures for your office:

  • Get rid of clutter in your home or office. Eliminating clutter will begin to clear away certain problems in your life and make room for something new and desirable to enter.
  • The wealth quadrant or upper left corner is the most important part of your home office or desk. Place a crystal bowl or a healthy plant in this area to enrich this area of your business.
  • A red object such as red flowers placed in the upper left corner of your office or desk can bring financial success-placed in the back center portion of your office or desk can bring fame.
  • Place a medium-sized rug in the center of your office. A deep blue, black, or other dark color rug in the middle of the office is like a deep pool of water upon which to rest the eyes and reflect.
  • If you don’t have a view outside from where you sit, hang a plant or a picture of a plant in your line of view to bring the outdoors inside for a calming effect.
  • Never place anything blue in the fame quadrant or back center portion of your office or desk—you will be drowning your fame.
  • It takes money to make money, so pay attention to the quality of things you put into your office. You should only have objects that are truly meaningful to you in your home office.

Though a complex science and art, many of the principles of feng shui are common sense and based on intuition. When incorporating these principles into your home office, aim for simplicity, think creatively, and trust your intuition. Imagine being drawn to your office because you feel comfortable and relaxed. This results in a flow of creative energy which leads to an increase in productivity which ultimately leads to success and prosperity.

Suggested Reading

If you would like to know more about feng shui, check out some of the following books available on amazon.com:

The Complete Illustrated Guide to Feng Shui by Lillian Too

101 Feng Shui Tips for the Home by Richard Webster

Creating Sacred Space with Feng Shui by Karen Kingston

Feng Shui: Harmony By Design by Nancy Santopeitro

Feng Shui: The Book of Cures  by Nancilee Wydra

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